Is God infallible?

This is a question I remember discussing with my Priest as I was going through RCIA. We all live by the premise that God does not make mistakes. He made Giraffe's to look the way they look for a reason, along with giving us eyebrows for reason and not to forget he made us the way he wanted us to be.

He made people of different races, heights, builds, eye color and yes even made us with different sexual orientations.

A few months ago I had a major argument with my brother, amongst all the turmoil he said to me "you have changed and I am not sure I like it". I have had lots of time to think about that statement and examine how I have changed.

I've gotten older, balder and grayer for sure. My views on many different subjects have changed particularly since the kids came along, but the major change I have looked back and paid particular attention to is how I feel about everyone else's opinion of me.

I think I have always been fairly comfortable in my own skin, but I don't take flack from anyone about my sexuality. I don't hesitate in any situation to mention my husband or partner. I don't apologize for who I am. I have no patience for those who choose to treat others badly or look down upon them because they are different and I certainly would never let ANYTHING that would instill hatred or negativity in my children.

So what ever your personal relationship with God may be, In my relationship with God, god is infallible, therefore I am gay because he created me this way and no apology is necessary.

Wonderment

Yesterday it rained in Houston. We are in a bad drought and rain is very welcome. I walked out of work and began walking down the street, letting the rain hit my face and watched as others hurried to keep dry, to huddle under their umbrellas or pull their shirts up over their head in a feeble attempt to stay dry.

Those that know me well know I love walking in the rain. The water hitting my face and the refreshing feel of the crisp air as it hits my lungs. There is something else i find as equally refreshing as I look at my kids with amazement. The innocence they have as they learn about the world around them. Their inquisitiveness is the driving force behind their motivation to learn.

Unbridled by preconceived ideas, racism, prejudice, hate, their minds are open to new ideas and experiences. Virtually fearless and with limitless possibilities they are ready to absorb information.

Imagine the world, just for one day, putting down their "umbrellas" and facing the world. Putting aside prejudices and hate and having the mind of child, wanting nothing more than to learn and understand.

Easter come and go...

It seems like forever when Greg was telling me about his mom's big get together at the ranch for Easter. Now I've had the pleasure of being part of it for many years. It also brings on a entirely new perspective when you have kids.

For a time we were splitting our time between "Easter at the Ranch" and a local fund raising event that took place every Easter weekend (jungle). However since the kids have arrived, we've changed our time allotment and even our financial contribution to the fund raiser. Now we spend our Easter preparing food, games, Easter eggs and getting the ranch ready for 50+ family and friends. It has been great to share this event not only with Greg's family, but my parents have also been able to attend on occasion and this year our great friends and Godfathers to our kids, John and Peter (and John's dad) were able to make the hour and a half trip from Houston for the gathering.

Often people hear of the ranch but never get the experience, so whenever someone close us gets to visit, we are very happy.

Bode isn't quite old enough to enjoy the candy eating, egg hunting, fun filled holiday that sends most of us into a sugar coma, but Tekla sure did. It took over 24 hours for her to come down from her sugar high!

Now onward to our next holiday.....

Happy Birthday!!

Well today isn't his birthday, but March 16th was. Our little man is now 1 year old. It is hard to believe that a few years ago he and his sister were just dreams of ours. We longed to be dads, and now it is so.

It is humbling to think of how those important to us, gave so much so that our dream could come true. THANK YOU MELINDA, Melinda's family and our families for being so supportive. Also thanks to all of friends who are playing such and important role in their (and our) lives. We are blessed to have such good role models, both gay and straight, for our kids.

Changed Perspetives

I love crime shows and "who done its" along with action films. I mean at one point in my life most of my TV, movie or even reading consisted of something that would fall into on or more of these categories. Nothing excited me more than a crime drama with some action thrown in. However since the kids have arrived, this has changed somewhat.

While I still enjoy these things (unsolved mysteries, Criminal minds, Law and order) my view point and emotions I experience have changed since the kids have arrived. This is particularly true if a child is involved in the story line. I have even stopped watching the program if it is to disturbing.

I continue to find it surprising how much having kids in my life has impacted EVERY facet of my life. While I certainly expected my time to be affected, I did not fully realize how even the smallest part of me would be included in this change.

I can say my life certainly has changed for the better.

Time, Time, Time

Time sure has gotten away from me. A couple of months have passed since I posted and our lives here have been quite busy.

The kids now consume most of our time and our planning, but we love it (most of the time). Tekla is now not only in swim classes, but I'm taking her to Gymnastics once a week as well. A 2 1/2 year old, geez, but it is good for her socialization. She has a fantastic Nanny here at home, but because she doesn't go to daycare, getting around other kids is great for her.

Bode is growing up so fast. He is now walking and jabbering up a storm. He says a few words, Daddy, Hi, Bye, Nanny, but still no Papa.. I'm left out again...lol. He is facing his first birthday in a couple of weeks.. hard to believe a year has come and gone.

House projects have been underway. Elevator is installed, tile work is being finished in the new hallway and spring is around the corner so we will be getting busy in the yard getting it ready for the kids (and parents) to enjoy this summer.

While we do enjoy our kids, we have made a conscious effort to keep our relationship important. We occasionally make date nights where we get a hotel room, go to dinner, out for a drink or something, just to remind each other who we are. We also just took a weeks vacation and loved it. Missed the kids terribly, but we needed the break.

Now onto what has been happening in the world around us... DADT has been repealed. DOMA is basically dead and many people around the world are revolting against their governments wanting democracy (whether or not they are ready for it or not). I must say this is an exciting time to see the changes around us.