Life liberty and the pursuit of happiness

Next week is a big moment in our lives, not only is the presidential election of grave importance, we are looking at another very important election. One that takes place in California and involves Proposition 8.

This is the greatest country on earth, our constitution, our democracy, but we can't continue to deny rights to people just because those people are different than ourselves. It speaks simply of bigotry and hatred.

For years people have held up the Bible and used it to reinforce their bigotry. I remember sitting in church as a young man and hearing the preacher say that blacks could not go to heaven. I've heard the preacher say that if you don't believe everything just like me, then you aren't going to heaven. Fine so be it, let me be the one to answer to god for being true to myself. John 4:16 says "So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him."

So what's up with this hatred that people spread in the name of God??

Pink??

I've been very remiss in posting lately, particularly with all that is happening in the world around us, economy down the tubes, presidential race mudslinging, proposition 8 and the list goes on. Today I'm going to be selfish and post about what is going on in my personal life.

TP and I had the chance to visit with our wonderful surrogate last week and attend a very important ultrasound with her and meet the OB doc. Ultrasound was great, baby's growth is right on target with the exception of the baby's femurs. Seems that they are about 3 weeks ahead of everything else. This could mean they could grow up to be a basketball player, however that would mean playing for the WNBA... that's right... we were surprised to discover we are having a little girl!!

For some reason we were all, including our surrogate, expecting a boy. We had even decided on a boy's name. Now it is back to the drawing board for names. It was a very exciting (and scary) time.

Here's a little pic of us with our surrogate.



Things are going pretty smoothly now that we are begining the 3rd trimester and we have an OB that we all are comfortable with (did I mention that he is hot?).

In fact we have begun to discuss having another baby in the very near future and I've made some contact regarding our egg donor. We are very happy to hear that she will donate for us again.

Now what am I going to do... I don't like pink.

You are missed

Christian Thad Adams. October 31st, 1973 - September 24th, 2008

I met Christian in 1999 while living in Salt Lake City Utah. My dog Maggie basically knocked him over. She was always a great judge of character. My time in Salt Lake was brief, but Christian became my only "true" friend while I was there. The miles and time took us apart, but we always remained close. He was there for me through the toughest time of my life, lending an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on and a wonderful laugh that would always brighten my day. I was there for him through some tough times as well and certainly hope he found me as mutuality supportive.


Christian married Katharine and started a beautiful family. Daughter Sage and Sofia with #3 due in December. I only hope they realize what a special man their husband and dad was.

It is hard for me to express in words the connection I had with Christian. A connection that will always be there. I feel I owe him so much, for he is largely responsible for my happiness today. He was there to give me a nudge when I needed it, whether is was to get out of a bad situation, move to a new city or to ask TP out on date.

Thank you Christian, for making my life a little bit better.

Peace be with you my friend.

Tick, Tock

In this crazy financial crisis sometimes it is hard to focus on our individual lives and relationships, however now is the best time to do just that. Focus on the things that the wall street crash can't take away from you. Family and good friends.

Time is clicking along very quickly now, at least it seems things are moving very fast. We are now 23 weeks into the pregnancy and this is a very big week. We are traveling to CA to visit Melinda and attend an ultrasound. Not just any ultrasound, but THE ultrasound to tell us the sex of the baby. This test is a major milestone in this journey of ours.

This signals how far along things really are by allowing us to plan for the arrival of our little one. We'll be able to finalize the baby's name, pick colors for the nursery and of course, let everyone prepare for the baby shower.

Last week we spoke to some dear friends about being God parents and they graciously accepted. I truly don't think we could have picked anyone any better. They will be active and involved in our child's life and will definitely be a positive influence.

Only 17 more weeks to go. I guess I better get finished with this bathroom remodel!